If you’re trying to recover from a relationship with a Narcissist, the most important thing for you to understand us that You Never Had a Chance. It is a truth that is both tragically sad and amazingly liberating. Sad because you have and are suffering. Liberating because it proves that there is absolutely nothing you could have done to prevent this relationship from failing. It is not your fault. The first truth about being in a relationship with a Narcissist: You never had a chance.
I set this conversation in the past, because I hope you have ended your relationship with the Narcissist in your life. But the truth is you may work with him, you may have children with her, and even if you never have to see or speak to your Narcissist ever again, that person will always be in your life. I’m sorry, but that’s just the cold, harsh, truth. So, let’s put it out there and deal with it. There is no point pretending.
Narcissists have plagued my life. They have hurt me in ways I didn’t even know was possible. It is dizzying how quickly a Narcissist can move from charm to harm, and back to charm again… and then pretend that the harm never took place… or that it was your fault.
Just don’t be drawn into the state of mind that gets you thinking you could have done something to save that relationship. Remember the first truth about being in a relationship with a Narcissist: You never had a chance. Understanding this is the first step to recovering from a relationship with a Narcissist.
Matthew Kelly
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