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  • Writer's pictureMatthew Kelly

What is the Purpose of A Relationship?

Relationships only make sense in relation to the overall purpose

of your life. If we are unable to establish this essential

purpose for our lives, then we will find it very difficult to bring

focus to our relationships. But now that we have established our essential

purpose, it is much easier to understand the meaning and

purpose of our relationships. The purpose of relationships is for

you to help others become the-best-version-of-themselves, and for

others to help you become the-best-version-of-yourself. Every relationship,

however formal or casual, long lasting or fleeting, is an

opportunity for the people involved to further their essential purpose

by becoming the-best-version-of-themselves.

What makes a good relationship? A good relationship is one

where we are challenged and encouraged to become the-best-

version-of-ourselves, while we encourage and challenge others to

become all they are capable of being. What defines troubled relationships?

Troubled relationships are those that lead us away from

our essential purpose, those that encourage us to be lesser-versions-of-ourselves.

The full and dynamic experience of relationship is therefore

dependent on a clear understanding of our essential purpose.

So, where do we start?

There is a question that you have probably already started

grappling with, and whose answer may have set off some alarms for

you. That question concerns your primary relationship. It may be

with your husband or wife, your girlfriend or boyfriend, your partner,

your significant other, your fiancé... but the question remains

the same.

Is your primary relationship helping you to become the-best-version-


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