Conventional wisdom suggests that common interests are the secret to lasting relationships. But it simply isn’t true.
Common interests are not enough to build a dynamic relationship upon. You need a common purpose. If we are going to further our understanding of relationships, questions such as, why do people break up? and what keeps people together? are great questions. But it is pointless to try to experience the deeper realities of relationships unless we are willing to start with the most fundamental question: What is the meaning and purpose of relationship? Any attempt to improve our understanding and deepen our experience of relationship without first thoroughly examining this question is an exercise in futility of monumental proportions.
What keeps people together in dynamic relationships? Common purpose. Why do people break up? Because they have no sense of common purpose; or they lose sight of their common purpose; or their common purpose becomes unimportant to them.
So, in order to create extraordinary relationships, we have to develop a common understanding of a shared purpose. But before we can understand the purpose of our relationships, we must first understand our purpose as individuals.
You are here to become the-best-version-of-yourself. And the purpose of relationships is to help each other become the-best-version-of-yourself.
Matthew Kelly
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